Six things you should know when you have Sex with genital herpes

Sex is a wonderful thing, but it is a trouble thing for people with herpes, so we supply some common questions and attitude for people living with genital herpes about their sex life.

1,I never want to have sex again and I hate my body.
2,Should I tell my partner about my genital herpes?
3,Can I have sex with genital herpes?
4,IS my sex life ruined now that I have genital herpes?
5,Will my herpes transmit to my partners?
6,How to have safe sex with genital herpes?

What’re yours?I am sorry that we have to deal with herpes.
But life goes on,we need to be active with our sex life.we have to face it and go throught all these things.

1,I never want to have sex again and I hate my body.

This is a understandable upset for most of us.Yes,we may hate our body,hate everyone,never wanna talk about sex again.That’s the major psychosocial impact on many people.But we need to reassure ourselves,because he diagnosis of genital herpes should not “single you out” or impugn your self respect. This sexually transmitted virus is present in a very large group of individuals over every social and economic strata.

One in five Americans has been infected!Can you believe it?We probably saw your doctor with a painful sore or recurrent and “always in the same place” irritation in the genital area.We may want to find out why I have herpes,who gave it to me.No doubt,everyone want to know these answers.But that will not do any help with our Physical Health and Emotional Health.Face your herpes and learn how to live with it is our choice!.

2,How to tell my partner about my genital herpes?

This is the hardest part before we having sex with partners.Tell or not?
Well,I did miserable things about this,I kept as a secret in the begining.But that hurt someone and made us unhappy at all.Then I tried to be honest and responsible,love and sex life getting better.

Here are some useful tips that may help:(A-E)

First,as I said,we need to tell our partners before we have sexual contact with them.It really a bad idea if you choose to tell them after sleep with them.To be honest, responsible, active, and loving are always the best policy.Even if he/she is just your casual partner,but they deserve to know the fact.Now we continue to the second part,how to tell:

a,Always stay clam

before you start the topic with telling your partner how common this infection really is,1 in 5 to 1 in 4 sexually active adults are infected – over 50 million american adults and 90% do not know they are infected.Why telling this?It will help your partner to know some facts about herpes and you are not the only
sufferer,this always a good start of the “Talk”.

b,Sometimes Words can be clumsy and awkward.

Choose your own words and find the way that’s most comfortable for you.Ask a question:Have you ever had a cold sore or fever blister?.Serious talk:I want to talk with you about something that’s important to me/I really feel I can trust you and I want to tell you something very personal. For safety:Let’s talk about safer sex. I am sure you can do better than I did.

c,This part quotes from someone just like us living with genital herpes.

And he think we should Instead of saying “I have herpes,” say “I carry the virus for herpes. ”.What will this help?If you say “I have herpes”,that will make your partner think you are having herpes outbreak now and you are always contagious.Yes,that’s true,this start may end your conversation or your partner ship. And what about ” I carry the virus for herpes” .Much better!It makes your herpes a manageable issue.Because up to 80% people carry the virus HSV1.which causes cold sores around the mouth, and can also be transmitted to the genitals during oral sex.

d,With a good start,what’s next?

Explaining them sleeping with someone who has genital herpes does not mean they are guaranteed to get it.Many people with infected partners never become infected themselves even after decades of being together.And there are many couples in which one partner has HSV2 and the other partner does not,this will help your partner relax and not worried so about your herpes or get repacted.

e,Taking time.

I have to repeat this again.Give your partner time to do some research and learn about herpes.I am sure you know more than he/her does,so,help them with it.Also you can print some information about herpes before you tell him/her to give a starting point.If he/she cares about you,they will learn about herpes and accept it.

Hope all these can do a little help for you to tell.

3,About the 3rd question,Can I have sex with genital herpes?

Yes,of course you can.Herpes is just a virus. It does not define who you are. Everyone has“stuff” to deal with in their lives,just we are dealing with herpes.And we
are learning about it.

4,IS my sex life ruined now that I have genital herpes?

Not at all.I can learn much more about love since we have herpes,the really true loving and sex.

5,Will my herpes transmit to my partners?

No,like I said above,sleeping with someone who has genital herpes does not mean they are guaranteed to get it. Many people with infected partners never become infected themselves even after decades of being together.

6,How to have safe sex with genital herpes?(The mainly part of this article).

First of all and more importantly we need to know,genital herpes does not have to bring about an end to your sex life. Couples cope with and are living with genital herpes every single day and for many.Millions of people have genital herpes around the world. Millions of people are still having sex lives, honestly, openly, with non positive partners, or other positive partners.All we have to do is to do some changes.Yes,nothing but some changes.

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